My wife and were separated for an extended period of time, 9 days, due to missionary commitments. Our normal sexual life is vibrant and often; these 9 days felt like mental anguish. Upon my return we enjoyed 10 days of great lovemaking! It was not planned but it went off without a hitch. Daily we made love, sometimes multiple times a day! We made love in many ways, for various reasons, and for different length of time. The impact on the heart was undeniable. That undeniable impact tangibly rearranged things in our life.
10 days of love making! Without even asking my wife’s “honey do” list was completed. The walls were painted, the furniture moved, the closet cleaned, etc… I was not paying her back, earning more sex, or feeling obligated because of. It was something that happened in my heart that caused service to overflow in her favor. Not just my body but my heart was completely satisfied…with life! Our conversations were full of consideration and loving affection. The one thing that I can only do with my wife made the relationship even more what it supposed to be.
Love and respect has always been a part of our relationship. However, the Love Dime paved the way for that to be experienced in the most unhindered way we have known. I know for certain that sex done with anyone other than your spouse will be a sin. This being the case there must be a dynamic role it plays in making marriage what it should be.
I cannot make a promise as to the full impact that 10 days of sex will have on your marriage, but I am willing to go out on the ledge and say that it won’t hurt. May you be successful in executing your Love Dime.
Over the course of the Love Dime we find that it will be a great idea to journal your thoughts about your spouse. This is not a record of love making but a record of feelings as the days go on.
My wife and I have completed the Love Dime more than a few times and we officially challenge you to have sex with your spouse for 10 days straight, pray for them daily for a minimum of 5 minutes, and journal your heart along the way. Some days it may be less eventful than others but 10 days straight is the challenge! This challenge can only be given by a marriage that has completed it. To accept the Love Dime Challenge, complete, upload a video, #thelovedime, celebrating your completion and challenging the couples around you to the great time you had!
Over the 17 years of marriage counselling I have not encountered a marriage that has fallen apart in the kitchen or at the bank. Understanding the “Marriage Circle”, the only rightful residents are you, your spouse, and God. The kitchen and bank are outside of the circle, which is why when they become a problem in the marriage they had to have intruded into your “Marriage Circle”, where they were never rightfully permitted to be. Once there they influence the one area that is exclusive to your marriage…sex. Without question all broken marriages, perhaps with the exception of the incredibly corrupt or amazingly shallow, fall apart in the bedroom. Therefore, do well on your Love Dime.